Friday, 16 October 2009

Tips to Become More Talkative

Some people have the gift of gab. They can talk about anything and everything. Give them any situation or kind of audience, they can talk their way into people’s hearts and make an impact. These people get noticed very easily and are usually the life of a party. You might have often tried to speak up just like those natural orators, only to chicken out even before trying. Being talkative is definitely something that will catapult you into the limelight and get you noticed in every walk of life. Talking is something that comes naturally, but there are definite ways to get rid off your shyness and become talkative. Check out these tips given below that will surely help you achieve what you aim for.
Tips to Become More Talkative
  • This first and foremost point that has been emphasized time and again is about confidence. You need to think high of yourself and believe in yourself. You need to think you are no less than anybody else in any respect and that will increase your confidence level.
  • Put a smile on your face every morning and start the day. There are many who will feel happy with your presence around and will come to talk to you automatically. Happiness attracts people and is a sure shot way of meeting new people and making friends.
  • Talk about anything and everything that you know. You don’t have to be Einstein to strike up an intellectual conversation. Rather, you could share opinions on a particular subject, discuss the latest news or just talk about a funny incident that might have happened in the morning. The more you share, the more trust and familiarity it breeds.
  • They don’t say ‘laughter is the best medicine’ without a reason! Laugh and smile often and you will yourself be surprised to see the reciprocation you get. Every moment you laugh will give you something to talk about the next day.
  • Try saying a casual ‘hello’ to everyone at work or college. You might start a casual conversation with someone with just a hello or a good morning. It will make you more comfortable with the idea of opening up and talking more to people.

Thursday, 15 October 2009

How to Talk to People - 9 Super Success Tips

We admire those who know how to talk to people, or have the innate ability to easily engage in a conversation even in an unfamiliar gathering. Others believe that some are born with the natural ability to talk to people or they have what they call the gift of the gab. However, the ability to talk or convey ideas whether in a small group or up on stage before a large audience is not an innate ability but an acquired skill. It can be learned, enhanced, and perfected. All you need are the right information and the determination to do it.

Were you disappointed before because you were not born with the gift? Then worry no more and start to learn the skill. To begin with, here are some helpful tips on how to talk to people.

1. Be presentable. You do not need to get the best couturier in town to have you packaged. All you have to do is to be dressed appropriately. It is one way of building your self-confidence and it will help you to act confidently.

2. Keep a pocket full of information. Be up to date with the current events, and keep a mental list of good topics of discussion. These are handy tools to keep you ready to talk to almost anybody.

3. Get yourself centered and focused. This is a basic if we want to establish connection with the person or people we are talking to. Develop the ability to shake off recent events that somehow ruined your day. Take a few minutes if you need to before engaging in any conversation.

4. Be respectful. Respect the feelings, emotions and opinions of others. Everyone has the right to their opinion and it is healthy to agree that we disagree. Let every one have their moment to be heard and sincerely listen to them. That way it would give them a sense of importance.

5. Maintain eye contact. It is one way of showing interest in the person we are talking to. Women, they say, maintain eye contact more than men but men could acquire the skill through practice. Movements or stray thoughts tend to sidetrack a person. Be aware of them and learn to ignore them.

6. Listen. Listening is a serious business. It is easy to talk and talk but we defeat the purpose and lose the chance of establishing rapport. There are
situations that are more important where active listening is imperative. You will not miss the cue for your turn if you listen attentively.

7. Establish rapport. It is not an easy thing but sincerity is the key that unlocks the door in establishing rapport. Synchronizing behavior or mimicking the pose, facial expression, gestures, body language, and tone of voice of the other person are ways of building rapport.

8. Adopt a positive attitude. Make sure your words, tone and gestures are all saying the same thing. Find out what you have in common, or if you seem to have nothing in common, adjust. Try to become the other person for a short time.

9. Always ask an open ended question. This will help the continuous flow of conversation and will help you and the group to keep the encounter alive and flowing with information.

Discovering how to connect with others and employing these strategies will make one successful in talking to people. Talk means to express, exchange ideas by means of spoken words or to convey information or communicate in any way. Take these simple steps and you are sure to make the act of talking to people fascinating and memorable for all. One day someone may come up to you and ask where you learned how to talk to people.


Monday, 12 October 2009

Learn To Be Expressive

1. Just say it.
Now hear this: No one can read your mind and they shouldn't have to. Open your mouth and say something if you are interested. Be honest and open because what do you have to lose? You may have just met this person and, if you don't communicate clearly, you'll lose even more.

2. Stop, turn and listen
Stop listening for what you want to hear and pay attention to what the other person is saying. It can save a lot of heartache and drama. And when you hear something reaffirming, provide confirmation so that your date knows you are listening and not off thinking of something else.

3. Actions speak louder than words
Show you care and do little things that show it! From calling to ask how the day was ... sending a sweet note, it's the thought that counts.

4. It's not what you say, but how you say it
She/he's only hearing 10 percent of what you are saying, but it's your body language that is saying it all. Show you care with a big smile and open arms.

5. There's no such thing as a poker face
Relationships are built upon trust and honesty. It's the bedrock that keeps things stable, whereas lies breed deception and resentment -- guilt too. And people can see it on your face regardless what card you deal.


Saturday, 10 October 2009

How to Think Positive

Positive thinking can yield powerful results to our lives. We are what we think, and negative thoughts can actually cripple our lives. In order to lead a satisfying life we need to think positive. All our feelings, beliefs, knowledge are based on our internal thoughts. We are in control of our conscious and subconscious mind, all the time despite our knowledge about it. We have the right to choose to be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive.
Here are some suggestions to help your thoughts to be positive
1. Make a positive commitment to yourself.
2. Make sure you keep your mind focused on important things. Develop a strategy when you are dealing with issues and obstacles.
3. Aim high, do your best and don’t look back. Dream about your success.
4. Be courageous, especially in times of troubles.
5. Don’t hesitate to try new things.
6. Keep track of your mental and physical wellbeing.
7. Learn to embrace life’s challenges; this will increase your stamina to withstand crisis and stress.
8. During hard times try your best to focus on the positive side [at least the neutral] for an instance when after a break up just think of it as a signal for a new beginning for you or when you are temporarily unemployed you could take it as an opportunity for you to find a more satisfying job.
9. Good feelings can banish negative emotions. So don’t forget to not only feel good but also think about good things.
“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln.